If We Look Closely (Chayei Sara 5785)


We revere Abraham

So much that he is always the central character

even when the chapter is in someone else’s name

The Torah focuses us on him

And yet

          if we look closely

there is a whole supporting cast


Two wives, or maybe three,

or maybe more, unnamed,

And a whole slew of household servants

who also take up arms for him

          when called upon

and who manage his affairs

and who venture off to find a suitable wife

for his favoured son


What would Abraham be without Eliezer?

Without Sarah, and Hagar and Keturah,

and all the others?

Like in the films where they are listed as “extras”

As “man with walking stick”

          “woman nursing child”

          “warrior number one”


Would he have achieved all of this without them?

Or any of it?

Or would HE have been the nameless one

if not for them?


Why do we champion the King Bee

and not the worker bees?

Why do we tell his stories and not theirs?

Why do we laud the leader and not all those upon whose shoulders

          he stands?


I am tired of hearing about Old Abe.

I want to know 

          more 

about the one who cooked the lamb;

who brought the water to wash the feet

I want to know 

who Hagar whispered her secrets to

And who Isaac went to visit

When he left the mountain,           alone.


I want to know of the Life of Sarah

Not of her death

Not of the business transactions that followed


I want to hear about Rivkah’s childhood

And the friends she surely

          left behinr

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