Side by Side (Toldot 5785)

The commentator says,

When Esau is down, Jacob is up

and when Esau is up,  Jacob is down;


Like some kind of divine barometer

where our enemy (who used to be our brother)’s fate

is reflective of God’s will

     somehow

As if God would want our enemy, our brother,

to suffer

just to prove that

     we’re okay.


Not my God, thank you very much.


What if

     instead

we viewed the world so that Esau’s success

is Jacob’s success,

     and Jacob’s success is Esau’s?


What if our enemy/our brother,

had to thrive in order for us

     to thrive?


What if our survival

     and theirs

were

     linked?


Don’t we say it each year:

None are free until all are free?

Do we mean it?

Or have we said it for so many years that we’ve

     forgotten

What the words mean?

Are we numbly mumbling outdated values

or do we just need a

     reminder?


Remember!

Esau is your brother, not your enemy!

Yes, he hurt us and we hurt him and it’s all

     twisted

over centuries and millennia but forget all that

and remember

     THIS

Esau is your brother. Not your enemy.


Born of one womb

if we cannot figure out how to live

     together

we will die, side by side.

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